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Solve the following puzzle

First, a very brief story.  Picture the following:

You are sitting chilling in your home one evening, whistling a merry tune and flicking through the latest edition of Hedge Trimmer Weekly (or whatever) and watching TV. Suddenly you hear a loud knock at the front door.  You pull yourself up and go to open the door.  On your door step you see a smart, official looking man standing there, holding a briefcase and some paperwork.

“Good evening”, he says, shaking your hand.

“I am Mr. Jones from the newly formed Department of Particularly Incredible Offers”.

He continues “It’s with great pleasure that I can offer you today, a $10,000 cash gift, risk-free and yours to keep”.

That quickly snaps you out of thoughts about the new electric-powered, 550w, 90cm hedge trimming beauty you were just considering buying.  However, you are rightly suspicious of this rather unusual offer, as you have never heard of this so called Department of Particularly Incredible Offers, and anyway, who goes around giving away $10,000 for free?

“I can see you are slightly doubtful of this offer.  Don’t worry it’s a normal reaction.” Says Mr. Jones.

To your amazement, he opens the briefcase towards you, and sure enough, there’s $10,000 sitting inside, tightly bundled in stacks of $10 bills.  He shuts the briefcase and then calmly hands it to you.

“Please, take the case” Mr. Jones suggests.

“But what’s the catch?”, you sensibly ask, as you take hold of the weighty briefcase.

“Ah, the catch” he adds, (looks like you were right, there’s always a catch).

“Well” he says “Starting now, and every day for the next two weeks, you must jump up and down in the air 200 times outside the front of your home.  I want you to keep the briefcase, which is of course indestructible and locked.  Someone will be watching, and once you have jumped up and down outside the front of your house 200 every day for two weeks, you will be handed the key which unlocks this case.  If you fail at any time to jump up and down 200 times outside the front of your house, someone will drop by to take away the briefcase.  Here is my official identity card and here’s a signed guarantee of this offer, plus my contact details”.

Well, how strange, seems quite legitimate, in fact it is a legitimate offer. You now ponder what you see as the two main possibilities:

1)      Ask the man to leave and take his briefcase with him, you are too busy, and anyway how likely is it that you will get to keep the $10,000.  Also, you want to get back to your TV show, which is starting in 15 minutes.

2)      You decide that the offer, though strange, looks true.  You decide to take the briefcase, and to jump up and down 200 times each day outside the front of your house.  You will then take the key and open the briefcase containing the $10,000.  Every time you are jumping up and down, you will be thinking about how you will spend the $10,000.

Now my question to you.  Do you choose 1) or 2) ?

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Quit WoW: 10 steps to success

Are you ready to quit?
If no, then read this, disagree with one or more steps, then go back to playing WoW.

If yes, then follow these steps to remove World of Warcraft from your life, and make sure it stays out.
Remember, this is not about hating WoW, or thinking it is more addictive than some other MMO. This site is about obsessive WoW play, other sites can deal with other problems.
This is about stopping your WoW habit, when it has caused problems in your life, with the aim of letting you get back to living and loving life again.

1) The Foundation
Look at where you are now, this is the basis of quitting. Make an accurate assessment of your life now compared to where it was before you started gaming.
Look at these areas:
- Relationships with loved ones (Friends/Family).
Look at each relationship, how has each one changed? Are you closer, or further apart? Is it tense, or easy-going? Has WoW caused problems?
- Physically
Look at how much and how well you sleep. Are you sleeping enough, do you feel tired? Do you need to sleep more, or get back to a better routine?
Are you using your body? Do you need to start moving again and learning what it is like to be alive, and not chained to that chair?
Look at your diet since playing. Are you eating badly, at your computer? Are you eating junk? Have you put on weight? Has it affected your health?
-Socially
Look at your social life outside of the game. Do you see friends and family as much as you did? Do you really relax away from the game?
Are you an “oxygen thief” doing nothing but consuming and taking, or are you adding anything to the World around you?

Make note of the top 5 things that have been affected since you started gaming. At some stage in the future you will forget why you quit. This list will remind you just why you quit, and what would happen if you went back.

2) Accept it is out of your control
You love gaming, you get a lot of pleasure from it, it has been a source of fun and excitement in the past. It kicks ass and you will miss the good times. You made some good friends, it was a wild ride.
The reason you became hooked is not your fault, it is out of your control. The same thing would happen again in the same situation.

3) Accept that you are responsible
The fact that you have played too much is not the fault of the game. Your obsessive gaming is not the fault of the game developers. Your long hours in the game are not the fault of your friends or family. Even though the degree of your obsession was out of your control, every decision was made by you, and you are responsible for the results. You are also responsible for kicking the habit and getting back to life. You are responsible for change. Tell your story here on the forums later on.

4) The only way forward is to quit
It’s a shame, but it has to be done. Accept this now, and know that if you put it off, you will only drift back into the traps that have been sucking your life dry. Things don’t look so bad the next day, so finish this while you have the chance, and while your desire for change is strong. Do it now.

5) Quit fully and totally
Do whatever you have to do. Make it a ceremony, fraps it, tell the world on Twitter.
Also, delete all items and gear, get rid of gold, everything. It only makes it harder to go back. delete the characters, all of them.
Do whatever else you need with disks, installs, other files, browser bookmarks, resources and sites. You won’t be needing any of it, so do it in style.

6) Announce it
Tell your game friends, your real friends, your family, your dog, you have quit, and you won’t be going back.
Tell game friends it has been fun, they are great, good luck with things. If they are real friends they will stay in touch outside of the game.
Friendships are bigger than games.
Tell friends outside of the game you are back. Tell family you are finally back.

7) Make things right
You might have really hurt people through your actions. You might have driven people away from you. The “you” they have been living with is not the real “you”. The real you is back now, ready to make a difference, to meet the new challenges with them. Apologise – it is well worth it, and necessary. People need to be able to forgive and forget. There is probably a lot of emotional baggage to get rid of. Be the big person and apologise.
If the place is a mess, clear it up. Do all of things you should have been doing while you were gaming.

8) Plan your success
Remember those huge dreams you had about the amazing things you wanted to see, the things you wanted to do or buy, the person you wanted to be, the places you wanted to visit?
Take a big breath, you are alive, and those things will be yours now, if you really want them.
Plan your Dreamlines, make them real, make them tangible. If you need to find a job, or fix a relationship, or fix your health, do it with passion and excitement, do it with energy. The new “You 2.0″ is going to be a work in progress, a work of art. The real adventure is just beginning, the pixels you have been playing with mean nothing now.

9) Find a Hero
Read the post here on finding a hero. Find someone you admire, respect and would want to be more like.
Follow their strengths and the basis for their success. Aim to be more like them, work towards improving yourself in the ways you admire.

10) Commit to an excellent life
You are a unique and excellent person. You have a set of skills no-one else has. You potential as a person is almost unlimited.
Use this period of shock and change to make other radical changes in your life. Get out there and take life by the neck, pull it in the direction you want.
Dump any useless friends who are going to pull you down or tell you that you made a mistake.
You are going to feel a lot of crazy emotions. It might not be easy, but if you want it, and if you have given yourself the desire, then you can do it.

Tell your story on the forums here. Use the community for support, many people have been there and pulled through the other side.
Your love of adventure, fantasy, discovery and excitement will not end. This is only the beginning.

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