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Finding a Hero
Posted by admin in Life After WoW on June 6, 2009
When you quit, you are going to be feeling a whole different mix of emotions: anger, fear, sadness, demotivation, emptiness, loneliness, indecision and much more.
It’s a very hard time, your emotional state is shocked out of the regular routine and security of your game playing.
It’s a time when your mind is very open to moving down new paths, and a time to take positive action.
Unless you can find something to fill the WoW hole, it makes things tough. This is why one of our recommended steps in the recovery process is: Find a Hero
It’s nothing dumb, no idolizing people, just finding someone who you know or know about who you respect and admire. Someone who has achieved what you would dream of achieving, someone who can be a role model as you start to move forward in a new, positive way.
First, if you can think immediately of someone who you respect, and would like to be more like, use this person as your Hero (they don’t have to be famous).
If you don’t have someone in mind, think about an area you enjoy, like sport, music, films, art, history, science or business for example.
Once you have found your Hero, start to research them a bit, use Google or the library. Dig into their history, and look specifically at areas like:
- What have they achieved?
- How did they do it?
- What are their strengths?
- What kind of personality do they have?
- How did they overcome difficulty?
- How would you like to be more like them?
Write this stuff down, it’s going to be useful when it comes to creating your Dreamlines. Your Dreamlines will be your wildest dreams about how good your life can be.
I will tell you about one of my Heroes. His name is Lance Armstrong. You might have heard about him, if not, the man is a legend.
He is a bike rider who has achieved at the highest level in his sport. He has won the biggest race in the world, The Tour De France, which takes place only once a year. He has won it seven times! Even though he was struck down with cancer and almost died. He fought through it with all of his heart and recovered to do what many people said was not possible.
He did it through determination, focus on his goals, passion for life and love of his friends and family and the sport to which he wanted to return.
His life is for me a huge motivation, and every time I look at what he has done, it drives me forward again, to try and achieve my own goals.
Now, at the age of 37, he is trying once again to win the Tour De France. A lot of people are saying it is impossible, but Lance lives to make possible what is impossible. You will see a link to his blog on my links to the right of the site. Or click here
Lance will be riding to raise awareness of his Charity fund.
Now it’s yout turn to find a Hero. Someone who can drive you forward and help you through the tough times ahead.
Life after WoW
Posted by admin in Game Psychology, How to Quit, Life After WoW on June 6, 2009
What can you expect if you quit?
At the very least, it will be a mixed bag of emotions. If you have been playing a lot, it’s going to feel a bit crazy, a whole churning pot of emotional turmoil.
Take a look at this list below, and expect some of the following:
Difficulty sleeping
Depression
Feeling completely empty
Vivid dreams about the game
Fear about the future
Anger at people around you
Irritability and restlessness
Periods of just sitting and thinking
Relief
Strong urges to try and go back
Mood swings
Sadness
Missing game friends
Missing your characters
Anxiety
Loneliness
Boredom
Lost for what to do now
Lack of motivation
Lack of goals
Illness like flu or a cold
Wanting to be alone
Putting off important stuff you know you should do
Wishing you could have it all, and play
Lack of enthusiasm
No passion for anything
The first few weeks after quitting is tough, and a lot of people give in and return to the game and waste all of the hard work they have done.
It’s going to be hard!
Remember though, you are not alone, and the toughest things give the biggest satisfaction. Remember what Gandalf said “All we can do is decide what to do with the time that is given to us”:
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